On Monday, I sent out an email to friends & family with the Sears pictures of Ian. On my side of the friends/family sphere, only my Dad emailed me back to say anything about the pictures. Sure, people on Jon's side emailed/called to say they were great or whatnot, but only my Dad. Out of how many people I emailed?
I guess maybe people are sick of me sending pictures of my kid. That makes me really sad. I guess I won't do it any more.
When he was born, I emailed pictures and some basic details about the birth to friends/family. Some people who never responded:
1.) An aunt/uncle
2.) Close (I thought?) friends of ours whom we have done a lot of stuff with, dinner parties and the like
3.) Someone I once considered a best friend, long ago in another country
4.) A friend who had gone through a really rough time last year who I bent over backwards (while greatly pregnant) to help out.
I had people from my workplace, who barely knew me, coming to visit me in the hospital. And some family members and "friends" never bothered to say "Congrats!" I mean, is it so hard to hit "reply" on an email and say that? I saw the aunt/uncle in person and they said "Oh the pictures were great!" That lessened the hurt somewhat, but they still never responded to the email and that was painful for me.
It is very hard for me to not have any friends here. I thought that I had made some, but I would have thought that a friend is someone who at least says "Congrats" when you have a baby. Ian and I have been home for a month now, and no one besides the grandparents have come to visit us. That hurts, a lot. Some of Jon's D&D friends came for game night, and I would have thought they would have at least wanted to get a look at Bug, but they were just like "oh, a baby..." and that hurt, too. I realize that menfolk don't make a fuss over babies. I know that I'm being whiny and awful, but it's still hard to admit to yourself that, gosh, people just don't like you that much.
Ah well. I'm fairly maudlin right now, I'll get over it.
Ian and I went to the Mommy Group at Mercy today. I had a great time, there were a lot of women and babies/kids there and I am hopeful to make at least one friend. Ian was great and was the only kid that didn't cry - he's such a genius!
He weighed in at 10 lbs 3.5 oz today. My big boy is growing up! *sniff*
3 comments:
Yes, this feeling will pass. For some reason some people just don't like getting baby pictures. Just send them to people who really appreciate them and know that the rest do love and care for you, but just express it in a different way.
First, I am sorry that you didn't get more responses, as he is a beautiful baby. Second, in my experience, some people just do.not.know how to deal with new moms or new babies. For me it was almost like I became a leper, or a purple spotted alien until Oldest was a few months old.
Third, and I don't know if it's any sort of consolation at all, but You have me, and others from e-hell. We may not be there in person, but we are here on-line and in spirit.
He is a beautiful baby! I will admire him as long as you like =)
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